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Surviving Infidelity After the Affair

Having an Affair | Surviving Infidelity | Spouse Having an Affair | Get Help Today | Call (805) 964-6574 Surviving infidelity is one of the most traumatic and painful experiences one will ever experience in their marriage or in any relationship. Oftentimes the wounds are gaping and the bleeding never seems to stop.

Many believe that we don't choose the people we fall in love with - but we DO choose whether or not to stay in love with them - and for that matter, whether to cheat on them too. And the reasons people cheat on their spouses vary as much as their stories about surviving infidelity.

The Stages of Surviving Infidelity

Surviving infidelity has often been compared to the stages of dying, but in this case it may be the death of your innocence. All that was held in trust - and all that was seen as good - suddenly becomes compromised and tainted. "Why did it happen to you" becomes an endless question which may never seem answered. Even when the question of "why" does find its answer, there is little to ease the pain of betrayal - nor the emotional cost of surviving infidelity - both of which can ravage you.

Surviving Infidelity and the Stages of Grief

The famous psychologist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross created the well-known stages of grief for death and dying. Her research examined the various stages individuals go through when they learn of their terminal illness. The five stages, as they apply to surviving infidelity, are:

Stage 1 - Denial
Stage 2 - Anger
Stage 3 - Bargaining
Stage 4 - Depression
Stage 5 - Acceptance

These five stages represent the same stages one goes through while surviving infidelity or the dissolution of a marriage or relationship. What differs when surviving infidelity is that the person who has betrayed you hasn't died - they go on living and you still have to see them or be aware of them.

Surviving Infidelity - Why Me?

Do you ever wonder why you got cheated on or why you did the cheating? Are there answers you are seeking... answers to questions about surviving infidelity that you really need? On this website you'll find the answers you are searching for.


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